Club 30's "Kill the Boredom Demon" Jive Pad, 29th Edition

the Bear SG

strange thing about strength training.. some people can probably move a car single-handedly (i could before i wrecked my spine) but can't pull themselves up without killing themselves (like me)

some could do the chin-ups thing easily but dunno why they're not very strong..

it's not all down to brute force...

i think av really can help..

and... forget about the bad times, remember all the good times, close your eyes and drift away Wink

the Bear SG

what if.. you called the cops and the cops told them to hit you again? Razz

Laughing

i guess being about 1.65m to 1.7m in Pri 6 stopped bullies in their tracks for me

that and a sharp tongue... in fact, i could move easily amongst all groups.. the pai kia and the bookworms and all the lots in between tolerated my presence..

hisoka SG

i thought pushing car was more about the leg str?

and yes chin up got techniques. or the body is jsut too dam heavy.

fudgester SG

I wanted to stand up to them, but my dad's frequent scoldings convinced me that I was indeed a weakling and deserved to be bullied.

He would say things like 'You know why you are being bullied? BECAUSE YOU ARE WEAK!!!!'

And the most painful thing he said to me after being bullied again was 'What's wrong with you? I'M UTTERLY ASHAMED OF YOU!'

I was more scared of my dad than of the bullies. His actions simply made me withdraw into my shell even further. If he was intending to use reverse psychology on me then I would say that it failed spectacularly.

If anything, I could have just as easily interpreted my dad's message as 'The bullies are greater than you are, so you might as well be one of them.'

If I were a Type-A personality, I would have interpreted it that way. And you wouldn't see me here - more likely I'd be rotting in some jail for rioting or assault.

I suppose one good thing came out of this - now I know how NOT to raise my kids. Confused

hisoka SG

hmmz no idea then i could try for the police's guns i guess. or i could just take it and plot revenge to torture all of them and their family?

with all the bullying in schools, and pple wonder why there are so many psychopaths and serial killers Rolling Eyes

the Bear SG

Shocked

i'll leave this to av to psychoanalyse Shocked

hisoka SG

i would have thought your dad meant you were being bullied cos you were weak so you need to be stronger and kill/multilate/destroy some of them to scare them off?

but there are many other wrong ways too. but i guess it does better the odds Laughing

sbst275 SG

1 more day less towards si gina's torture at Tekong Laughing

and going botak

fudgester SG

That's what I said - perhaps he was using reverse psychology on me.

But you can't really blame me for being unable to see it that way - reverse psychology is not a very simple concept for a six-year old to understand.

And like I said, I could have just as easily interpreted it the totally wrong way. Confused

hisoka SG

but it doesn't seem like reverse to me. he told you plain and simple. you are bullied because you are weak. Confused

fudgester SG

He scolded me with those words in harsh tones.

hisoka SG

Mr. Green

what would you do in that scenerio?

note that you can't outrun them.

the Bear SG

well, now that you recognise that, it is time to let it go, let it be water under the bridge and be what you can...

now, if i was shackled by idiocies my folks told me, i'd be even more an emotional cripple than i am now Wink

one day, i decided to just let it go.. in fact, recognising all that they have said and done isn't anything about me, but reflects badly on themselves, is liberating..

you learn to look at yourself and say "hey! i'm okay.. what the heck was that all about?"

and you also learn to take criticism which is deserving and become a better person..

all it is, and always will be, is an opportunity to grow.. mentally, psychically, spiritually, emotionally and eventually, you hope to be able to grow more as a human... and become more humane Smile

av98m SG

Hmmm.........the bullies in my school were the damned skinny type(I guess that was why they needed to hang together in larger groups). So I have no hang-ups about strength training.

And I've learnt that being parents are not infallible. They are equally capable of sheer stupidity at times.

Go to your uni's gym and speak to the instructor or whoever is manning the place. He will be able to give you the proper instruction. (probably a range of back and arm exercises, like bent-over rows, pull-downs etc)

av98m SG

Shocked

*thinks hisoka has issues*

udontknowme SG

i just realized i dont know my home phone lumber...

hohoho~~~

elindra SG

Morning folks!
Haha I was so 'blur'
I thought I arranged our potluck on the same day as KTV with my ex-colleagues Laughing
Luckily I did not. Left my organiser in the office

hisoka SG

same question what would you do? Laughing

fudgester SG

Yeah I know... I've learnt that not everything that my dad ever taught me was right. In his eyes I was dumb and weak.... but now I know that the only really dumb and weak thing I ever did was to actually believe that.

I may be weak but damnit I'm a survivor.... I've survived all sorts of sh*t being tossed in my face and I'm still standing....

I may be slow to learn but I work hard at it... I'm not intelligent, never was, but I make up for it by working my ass off in whatever I do.... I'm not smart, but damnit, I do know how to learn. It took me years to learn that my dad was wrong, but I've learnt from the experience, and I resolve to raise my kids in a better way.

Oh well... I think I've had enough of slugging my dad in an online forum.

If you guys don't mind.... I'd like some time alone. Neutral

hisoka SG

hmmz that reminds me of the headache i have over it Crying or Very sad

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